Talk It Out!

When's the last time you had an argument or disagreement with someone? Do you recall what sparked it? Do you find yourself dwelling on what he or she said that made you so mad and caused you to storm out of the room or simply "run away" from the altercation?

Isn't it ironic how at times we can have a disagreement with someone at one moment and everything is all good the next? Well, I'd like to believe that the reason behind it is Effective Communication. If we just take a moment to "Talk it Out", we'll find that the problem really wasn't all that bad.

Effective Communication requires adequate Listening skills from all parties involved. There are 5 Stages of the Listening Process:


  1. Receiving:  Hearing & Attending
  2. Understanding:  Learning & Deciphering the Meaning
  3. Remembering:  Recalling & Retaining
  4. Evaluating:  Judging & Criticizing (NOT of one another, but rather the problem)
  5. Responding:  Answering & Giving Feedback



These stages are pretty self-explanatory.  When receiving a message from an individual, we should take heed to the other stages before responding; because without doing so could cause our responses to come across the wrong way, which in turn affects the other person's reception and could spark another argument or disagreement.

In Psychology, there's a term called Fight-or-Flight, which simply means that the body releases hormones that stimulate your adrenaline. This prepares you to either Fight or Flee the threat. Depending on a person's adrenaline and/or inability to immediately calm down, they may choose to run away from the problem or discussion rather than "Talk it Out".

With that being said, considering the topic of discussion, some threats are worth fighting for. We can't always run away from our problems. By simply sticking around to discuss them can not only help you move forward and grow as an individual, it can also enhance, strengthen, and grow your relationships. Who knows? You may actually learn something new about yourself and the other person in the process.

So, the next time you're faced with the decision to run or fight, take a brief moment to think it through. Before quickly responding or reacting with a harsh come-back to lash out at or hurt the other person, fully analyze the situation and consider the outcome your next set of words may have on your scenario or relationship. Will those words intensify or calm the situation?

Whatever the situation may be, hopefully it's worth fighting for, which will ultimately motivate you to truly LISTEN and "Talk it Out".

Comments

Anonymous said…
Great topic Ki! Nicely written!
May 19, 2014 at 11:27 AM
movinstar said…
Sorry I'm just now responding to your comment, but I wanted to say Thanks anyway.
November 18, 2016 at 10:04 PM
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